Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Wedding Facts...(Continued from Yesterday's Anniversary Edition)


We were married at Pea Ridge United Methodist Church at 5:30 p.m. on Wednesday, February 14th, 2001, with Reverend Gary Stackpole officiating.



Doug was a nervous wreck until he was standing at the altar. I had been through this before, so I was calm, cool, and collected UNTIL I got to the altar.



It was a rainy, gray, overcast day, but around 55 degrees. Nobody could decorate the car for the rain. Doug's uncle, Bill Sommerville, threw a streamer on the back. The only reason it stuck was because of the rain water that had collected on the trunk.


I wanted a tiara and for my hair to be down. Doug wanted me to have a veil and for my hair to be up. These were the only two things he requested, so I obliged.


I had originally planned on carrying a lit candle down the aisle, but my candle holder broke, so I decided I wasn't going to carry anything. A friend of mine couldn't stand the thought of me walking down the aisle with no flowers, so she went to Michael's and selected six red roses, and that's the only reason I had a bouquet.


It was a very small wedding. Five people sat on the bride's side, and only two were my relatives, where as forty people were on the groom's side. Most of them, aside from Doug's family, were choir members. They had choir practice after the wedding. Doug and I were choir members, but were exempt from practice that night.


My gloves were covering a very large bruise on my left forearm. I was in the hospital a few days prior to the wedding, and sustained the bruise from the IV. The gloves were a last minute decision, but if you looked close enough, the purple bruise did show through the matte material.


Our wedding ceremony was entire forty minutes long. I walked in to "My Heart Will Go On," instead of the traditional wedding march. A lady in the choir sang the theme from Romeo and Juliet. She also sang the Lord's Prayer. Doug's father was his best man, and my brother's girlfriend of almost eight years was my maid of honor. They wed on June 9th, that same year.


Doug and I paid for everything except for the photographer, the tuxedo rentals, the bouquet, and Doug's mother's dress. In 2001, a small wedding cost a total of $16,000.00 and we did everything, including the dress, the cake, the food, the decorations, for $2,000.00. We didn't buy everything at once. We shopped over the course of three months. Doug's dad bought the red heart shaped cookies, and Doug opted a red velvet groom's cake. (He takes being a southerner seriously.) We garnished the tables with cinnamon hearts wrapped in tulle and bubbles, and there was a large heart shaped candle, alternating red or pink on each table. We also had lace doilies and used Doug's paternal grandmother's china to serve food from at the reception. Someone asked if they were supposed to throw the red candy hearts at us.


I threatened to get the marriage annulled if Doug smashed the cake in my face. Doug didn't find that as funny as I did. *lol*


Doug was true to his word and didn't smash the cake in my face. (On a side note, I look like my mother here. The older I get, the more my father's DNA is kicking my mother's DNA in the face.) We toasted with Welch's sparkling red grape juice. We ran out of punch before we did food, which according to the bible was the worst thing that could happen at a wedding.


It had stopped raining, but was still damp out. We had guests blow bubbles instead of throwing rice. I still have that dress, and it still fits. Guests from left to right are Nancy Harmon, Betty Jo Kimble (who lost her husband, George, recently), and my mnl, Ruth Ann Townsend.


Doug insisted we have a dance. I can't dance, no seriously. Several guests stayed and helped with the clean up, Doug and I even stayed and helped until his parents insisted we leave. I can't seem to leave a mess behind...

That's pretty much it. Thanks for attending!

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Happy Valentine's Day!

Happy Valentine's Day to everyone out there. As for me, it's also my eleventh wedding anniversary!

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I wanted to share some odd but true facts about anniversaries. What do you get a couple for their eleventh wedding anniversary? Let's look at the Hallmark Anniversary Gifts List that the company always features in the back of their calendars.

Traditional vs Modern:

1st: Paper/Clocks (How does one operate a paper clock?)
2nd: Cotton/China (How does cotton china work?)
3rd: Leather/Crystal (An odd combination, antonyms, like naughty and nice.)
4th: Fruit or Flowers/Appliances (Nothing says "I Love You" like some apples and a new blender.)
5th: Wood/Silverware (Or you could get wooden silverware, kill two birds with one stone.)
6th: Candy or Iron/Wood (But you got me wood last year!)
7th: Wool or Copper/Desk Sets (You have more than two choices at and after the 4th anniversary.)
8th: Bronze or Pottery/Linens or Lace (Or a divorce, which seemed to be the tradition in my family for a while.)
9th: Pottery and Willow/Leather (Not leather again!)
10th: Tin or Aluminum/Diamond Jewelry (Let's see, Reynold's Wrap or Diamond Jewelry? That's a tough decision right there.)
11th: Steel/Fashion Jewelry (Or Illness in mine and Doug's case. We gave the gift that keeps on giving!)

Between the 16th and 19th wedding anniversaries, you no longer receive traditional gifts. If you make it to the 20th, you get China/Platinum. The 25th is the Silver Anniversary. The 40th is the Ruby Wedding Annivesary (celebrated in England mostly). The 50th is the Golden Anniversary. The 55th is the Emerald Anniversary (Also not as celebrated in this country, but should be). The 75th is the Diamond Anniversary. Anything after that is all diamonds, and if you make it to a 100th Wedding Anniversary, you get a ten karat diamond. My question is has anyone made it to their 100th? It's seemingly impossible. And that's all you get? I would want a parade or something. *shrugs*

Anyway, eleven years ago today, my husband, Doug, accepted the terms and conditions of me when he said, "I Do." There's something amazing about that. Eleven years isn't that long really, not compared to what it felt like when I was younger, but with marriage being taken so lightly these days, it is an accomplishment. Anything after eight years in my family is an accomplishment. But marriage is a covenant. Eleven years ago, I entered into a covenant with Doug, then I decided I was going to do my own thing. I had been married once before, and it didn't work out. When I entered into the first covenant with my first husband, I had a picture of what a wife was supposed to be. When I got divorced barely two years later, I blamed myself. Maybe I wasn't a good enough wife, but I did all of the right things. I cooked and cleaned, packed lunches, had dinner on the table every night, but my first husband wasn't interested in that. So when I entered into a covenant of marriage with Doug, my perspective of what a good wife was supposed to be was ruined. I had no idea what I was supposed to do. There were different rules, a different playing field, but ultimately the same game. And I don't know if I'm a good wife. I have a better idea of what's she's supposed to be, but have you read Proverbs 31 lately? I'm always going to miss the mark according to that. For starters, I can't sew. Seriously, I can't make clothing out of flax. But I digress...

So Doug took all of me, my flaws, my issues, my quirks, my eccentricities, he accepted all of the terms and conditions of me, and I'm so thankful for that. God really does give second chances, and He really gave me a gift.

That's about it. I will now assault your mind with images from a wedding.

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Here we are!

I will give out the facts and details of our wedding day later. I think I need a nap. I'm exhausted.

By the way, Happy Valentine's Day again!

If you want to look at some of the wedding pics, you can go here on my Facebook page.